Specialized Couples and Individual Counseling and Marriage Therapy in Seattle, WA
Pacific Northwest Family Therapy is a group practice in Seattle, WA. We are a collective group of therapist who provide couples counseling, individual therapy and Sex therapy. Serving South Lake Union and Laurelhurst in Seattle, WA, giving two very convenient options to choose from.
Is your Relationship lost in the world of logistics?
The carpooling, the bill paying, the house cleaning. The many hours spent cooking meals or looking for food in the fridge that is not there. Now you need to either go to the grocery store or go out to eat, and eating out is expensive. Helping your kids with their homework, then fighting with your kids about homework. Worrying whether your kids are going to the right school or hanging out with the good kids. Setting up playdates, trying to make new parent friends all while trying to keep in touch with your old friends. Work stress bleeds into your home life. Your cell phone has become a personal wall and your escape from your life and partner. The only time you and your partner talk is when discussing these logistics, and the talking often leads to a conflict. Who is doing more, who has more stress. How much sex you are NOT having, how little you connect emotionally. Who remembers the calendar better and who has the better parenting style. The fight escalates, you are repeating yourself and finally you walk away or go to bed. What if instead you said something like, “I miss you, why don’t we skip the kids game and go to dinner?” If you have a desire to make that statement, then we are here to help.
Our therapist can’t take away the business side of your relationship, but we will help you communicate about it better. Providing you with better ways to manage conflict around these issues is one of our main goals. We do this by teaching you when to recognize flooding in yourself and by helping you learn how to ask for what you need in a healthy and effective way. You will learn skills to better compromise when differences arise instead of fighting every battle just to win. In order for these tools to be effective, you will need to increase the amount of positive experiences you are having with your partner. We encourage daily conversations, date nights, dream talking, giving appreciates, being affectionate and giving one another the benefit of the doubt.
Do you need couples counseling or individual therapy?
It depends, sometimes you first need to work on yourself before you can begin to work on your relationship. Some things to consider would be, if you keep finding yourself in the same situation, making poor relationship choices. Maybe you have had multiple affairs or finding yourself continuously betrayed. In these times couples counseling may need to come second. When you really take a look at your childhood and family history, you start to understand why certain feelings you have make you react the way you do. At times you may react in anger or hurt, other times it comes out in how you manage conflict and intimacy. Our therapist at PNW family Therapy place a huge focus on attachment theory and family systems in our work with both couples and individuals. Navigating the emotional world by speaking from an emotional and vulnerable place, allows you to speak about feelings and needs vs reacting from them. We teach you the how and the why behind this tool. We often recommend doing both individual therapy and couples counseling conjointly. If that is not feasible then doing some in depth individual therapy followed up by couples counseling will likely give a more desirable outcome. To schedule an appointment for individual therapy click here.
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