Love and Logistics
A Couples Intensive in Seattle
Prioritize your relationship!
Does your Relationship feel more Logistical then Loving?
The carpooling, the bill paying, the house cleaning. The many hours spent cooking meals or looking for food in the fridge that is not there. Now you need to either go to the grocery store or go out to eat, and eating out is expensive. Helping your kids with their homework, then fighting with your kids about homework. Worrying whether your kids are going to the right school or hanging out with the good kids. Setting up playdates, trying to make new parent friends all while trying to keep in touch with your old friends. Work stress bleeds into your home life. Your cell phone has become a personal wall and your escape from your life and partner. The only time you and your partner talk is when discussing these logistics, and the talking often leads to a conflict. Who is doing more, who has more stress. How much sex you are NOT having, how little you connect emotionally. Who remembers the calendar better and who has the better parenting style. The fight escalates, you are repeating yourself and finally you walk away or go to bed. What if instead you said something like, “I miss you, why don’t we skip the kids game and go to dinner?” If you have a desire to make that statement, then I can help.
If you feel like the couple described above sounds like you, then you are not alone. You are the couple I work with. There are so many of us out there. Scheduling time with me can definitely help. Here is the thing though, it is nearly impossible with all that I listed above to make weekly or bi weekly therapy sessions work. So many couples want to work on their marriage but time is something we do not seem to have enough of. That is why I started doing intensives. We can do some really good work over two days that would take up to a year with weekly/bi-weekly sessions.
By scheduling a couples intensive with me you will learn how to not let the logistic of life get in the way of your love and passion. When working on the love side of the marriage, I will give you skills to strengthen your friendship and intimacy (but first we will explore what intimacy means for each of you),while making plans to incorporate fun into your relationship. We also we begin to have conversations about dreams and goals and the best way to support one another. Respect and appreciation flourish in this environment and managing conflict will feel less intense and challenging due to the increased connection and positive sentiment you have built. Finally I help you to create new rituals while developing a plan to ensure that you will implement and stay consistent in these new rituals. I would hate for you to leave with all this momentum to only forget about it a few weeks later.
This intensive can help you move past the blocks that have stopped you from connecting with your partner. It is important to understand how each of you can become the best partner you can be. Show up better in 2020!
One added benefit is that you do not have to take off work or find a babysitter each week. Work meetings and child illness are often reasons that clients cancel (I totally get it…life). All of these life events can delay progress and lower the relationship on the priority scale.
So what are you waiting for? Call me today to get scheduled 206-747-0817. Or click here to schedule a phone consult. If you want to try to talk before I have an opening for a phone consult please feel free to email me at email@example.com to set up a call. I am only holding one intensive a month and first available for this year is in March.