Love and Logistics
A Retreat for Committed Couples
Is this your life?
It seems like you have a meeting scheduled at work nearly every day if not multiple times a day. Meetings with titles like, “How to Be A More Effective Leader” or “How to Make Your Business more profitable. There are working lunch meetings, off sites for team building and the annual performance review. These meeting’s purpose is usually to ensure that each member of the team is working and performing to the best of their abilities so that the company can be as successful as possible.
Yet, consider this, do you hold meetings with your spouse to discuss the current state of your marriage? If you answered no, why not?
A relationship is very much like a business. The problem is that the logistics talk usually win instead of having a deeper more intimate conversation. Your partner has begun to feel more like a roommate then a romantic partner. You have forgotten about the love, the intimacy, the connection, the fun and the romance that your marriage or relationship once had. You talk about the logistics at all times of the day; no time is sacred from the never ending to do list. The relationship becomes unfulfilling and your life begins to resemble Groundhog’s Day. It isn’t that logistics and household management conversation shouldn’t happen. They should happen, AND you also need to talk about dreams, hopes and issues within the relationship. Having meetings that deal with the household logistics each week will free up space and time in your relationship for the more emotionally intimate conversations. Not to mention the chances of getting into a conflict over a missed appointment or misunderstanding with dramatically increase with this logistics meetings, sometimes referred to State of the Union Meetings.
Prioritize your relationship!
With so many work commitments and time away at work, combined with the constant logistics talking, you may have lost sight of the importance of your partner and your relationship. What if, instead, you began to prioritize your time as a couple? What if you start to give your relationship as much time, energy and attention as you do to your job or business or logistics? Imagine creating meetings on your shared calendar where you scheduled time to connect with your partner daily, weekly, quarterly and annually. You would be putting logistics in a specific place while constructing rituals that build up the foundation of your relationship. Friendship, intimacy, fun, respect and appreciation will flourish in this environment. Managing conflict will feel less intense and challenging due to the increased connection and positive sentiment you have built. In this type of relationship you can again feel all the feelings you did the first time you kissed your spouse.
This retreat will help you to create new rituals while developing a plan for the future to ensure that you will stick with these new rituals. I would hate for you to leave with all this momentum to only forget about it a few weeks later. You will begin to focus again on dreaming, having fun together and embarking on new adventures. This retreat will help you move past the blocks that have stopped you from connecting with your partner. It is important to understand how each of you can become the best partner you can be. Why not do it while relaxing in one of the most beautiful places in the world? Make the commitment today to reap the relationship benefits!
By attending this couples retreat, you will learn:
- How to communicate with L.O.V.E. – Listen. Observe. Validate. Empathy
- To foster respect, affection and closeness by strengthening your friendship
- That Sharing in a deeper emotional connection with one another will increase the satisfaction with your relationship including the physically intimate relationship
- How to build trust with one another through consistent actions that are authentic in what you say, what you think/feel and how you behave.
- How to manage conflict constructively and calmly by learning how to recognize and validate one another feelings and realities
- What it looks and feels like to break through gridlocked conflict issues in your relationship
- That through Collaboration and curiosity of your partners world, you increase your ability to compromise
- How to be a R.A.D. partner (you will have to come to find out how to be R.A.D)
About Beth Wylie
My passion in therapy has always been around helping couples. The joy I feel when I see a couple deepen their connection or when I see them begin to actually enjoy one another again is why I do this work. While I love working in a private practice, I have had a desire to work in a more intensive environment to help couples achieve the connection and joy at a more rapid pace. To be able to go there and stay there and work through the blocks all in one day vs. a few weeks or months (and sometimes years). This method has been shown to have a greater impact in regards to long term changes. I have advanced training in the Gottman Method and will be using exercise and providing research that I have learned in my training during the retreat. I have worked with hundreds of couples over many years in my private practice and have been using the Gottman Method in my work. Attachment and Imago therapy also guide me in how I approach and work with couples and I will bring that insight and knowledge to this retreat. I have a profound love for working with couples and a strong desire to help couples reach goals for their relationship that they set out to achieve. While this retreat will be intense, I am also pretty funny, so be prepared to laugh a lot!
Is this couples retreat right for you?
Love and Logistics is for committed couples in various stages of their relationship. Anyone who seeks to enhance their relationship and learn scientifically validated skills for a healthy relationship is welcome. It is particularly for couples who have busy lives as well as those with children.
* This workshop is not a good fit for those who are currently experiencing emotional or physical abuse. Nor is it a good fit if their is a current drug or alcohol addiction in one or both partners. However, please still reach out so that we can either see you in our private practice or provide you with the appropriate referrals.
Price, location and dates:
The retreat will be held on the beautiful Hawaiian Island of Maui in Hana. We will be staying at the gorgeous Travaasa Experiential Resort, Maui last truly Hawaiian Place. Click on the link to view the resort https://travaasa.com/hana/
The cost of this retreat is $1997 per couple. This does not include airfare, lodging or food.
The format is group therapy with breakout sessions. The breakout sessions will be couple focused and you will receive individualize coaching from Beth during these breakout sessions.
The retreat will be held February 12th through February 14th.
This retreat is limited to 8 couples. Do not miss this amazing opportunity to re-connect and grow with your partner.
Healthy Relationships attract Healthy Relationships
Love and Logistics is perfect for a group of friends who want to both improve their marriage and support their people at the same time. When your community is made up of couples who have healthy, passionate, respectful and loving relationships, you will find that your own relationship reverbarates in a more positive space as well.
So why a Retreat vs. weekly therapy sessions?
Weekly or bi-weekly therapy sessions are great to build rapport and develop and strengthen relations with each other. However, the opportunity to engage in a couples retreat and small group therapy without the weekly distractions of work, kids, outside activities, holidays and Summer vacations allows for deeper connections and quicker progress. Focusing on each other exclusively; creating a plan that is realistic for boosting the relationship can help to develop even greater satisfaction and deeper connection. You will essentially be receiving 6 months worth of therapy in 3 days. Plus, Hawaii in February, yes please!