Lets Talk about the F word….. Feelings
A part of you wants to go there but you also know that men are supposed to be strong. You have learned that you are definitely not suppose talk about your feelings. Yet, because you are not talking about how you feel, you stuff these feelings down. You do not ask for what you need, so your feelings tend to be more reactionary. Therapy for men in Seattle can help!
What are reactionary feelings?
These reactionary feelings come out in the form of anger, frustration or you might completely shut down. When in a relationship these reactionary feelings can hinder connection and lead to high levels of conflict and relationship insecurity. You hear your partner saying that they want more emotional connection, yet you do not really know what that means or looks like. So, you agree to try, but you never do, mainly because it is not usually at the top of your mind. This then leads to disappointment from your partner, which then leads to conflict and disconnection, and the pattern continues.
How Therapy for Men can help.
I work with men who want to open up and develop the skills to enable emotional flexibility and emotional intelligence. These tools enable men to find a balance, manage their emotions, and interact with others in a healthy way. Emotions can be overwhelming and flooding. Additionally, the needs of your spouse, family, and social pressures add even more layers of difficulty to an already complicated situation. I believe strongly that men benefit tremendously from developing a solid social and emotional foundation. The advantage from learning how to recognize, manage, and communicate our emotions has lifetime benefits. It is essential for fathers to model, develop, and nurture both emotional and social skills with their sons and daughters.
Examples of emotions that can cause dysfunction in your life are:
- Anger, irritability, or aggressiveness towards others
- Anxiety in common social situations
- Obsessive thinking or unwillingness to compromise with others
- Unhealthy compulsive behavior that interfere with work, family, or social situations
- Noticeable changes in mood, energy level, or appetite
- Difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much
- Unable to concentrate, feel restless, or on edge
- Feeling regularly stressed from work or ongoing commitments
- Need for alcohol or drugs to help cope
- Engaging in unusual high-risk activities
- Ongoing sadness or hopelessness
- Feeling unusually flat or having trouble feeling positive for an extended period of time
- Regular headaches, digestive issues, or unusual aches & pain
- Isolating oneself from family and friends
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